Take a Well-Worn Path to Clean Communication

While spending the week with family in Colorado,safest way." Having just spent 45 minutes
my brother-in-law, Jason, and I spent one morningfollowing him, I asked again in a non-accusatory
traveling the mountainous back country on mytone, "Are you sure that's the way?" Jason
father's ATVs. Thrilled by both scenery andpaused, "No, I have no idea." Admitting that he
speed, we took the hills with that wonderfulhad no idea how to get down, we were able to
combination of confidence and naivetémake some progress. We dismounted, sat down,
that men on 4-wheelers have. After about anand evaluated the situation. Pooling together our
hour of maneuvering through the well-worn pathsthoughts and scouting out paths on foot, we
of Westcliffe, Jason looked at me and pointed tofound the most effective way to resolve the
the mountain in front of us, indicating that wesituation we were in. In business, we encounter
should ride to the top of it. Excited at thesituations like this everyday. However, basic
challenge, and armed with all the confidence anbusiness training encourages seeking out "yes"
hour of experience brings, I raced ahead of himanswers and avoiding the word "no" at all costs.
onto the base of the mountain. Shifting intoTruthfully, we should seek to establish clean
4-wheel drive, we climbed the steep mountainside.communication with our customers, the type that
As we reached the rolling flat summit, I threwallows the salesperson, and the customer, to
my arms up like I was Rocky reaching the top ofevaluate the situation, using all of the information
the stairs. A few seconds later, I realized thatavailable in order to make the right decision.
getting down from the mountain wasn't going toToo often we lead our customers down the path
be as easy as getting up had been.of "yes" when the right answer is actually "no."
I turned to Jason and asked, "So... how do we getWe try so hard to close a sale that we fail to
down?" He replied, "Easy, we go this way." As weestablish a clean understanding of the situation. In
began to retrace our path, it became apparentthe absence of this clean understanding we can
we were going to have some trouble gettingdrag out the sales process with no acceptable
down safely. The mountainside was too steep andconclusion, or we convince our customer to take
we could feel the ATVs starting to tip over.a path that is wholly inappropriate. You may get a
Throwing them into reverse, we backed up,sale, but you will kill the long-term relationship as
trying to find a safer path down. With his militaryyou and your customer tumble down in the
experience, I trusted Jason's instincts over mywrong direction like a top-heavy ATV. In every
own. Following him to another path, my heartsales relationship, you must try to understand
jumped as the back two tires began lifting off ofwhere you are at from a communication
the ground, about to tumble. Looking at thestandpoint. There is great value in taking some
quarter mile downward, I froze. I dismounted thetime to have a simple conversation about
ATV and pushed it back to safer ground. Wewhether you and your customer feel you are on
repeated the process no less than a dozen times.the right course. To receive an honest, productive
Jason's confidence and my belief in it had meanswer, creating an environment that allows your
following him blindly. Finally, I had to ask himcustomer to feel comfortable enough to tell you
straight out, "Do you seriously know how to get"no" can sometimes be the fastest way to the
down from here?"sale and the only way into a long-term relationship.
He replied, "Yes, it's right over there, it's the